For the plan to be most effective, it begins with identifying an absolutely trusted person committed to helping you. This ally will be crucial in holding important items and documents, ensuring you have what you need when the time is right. The plan also details how to gradually and subtly prepare for your departure, ensuring your safety and minimizing suspicion.  I will mention now that it is important, if you have children, to keep your plans a secret from your children. They will almost certainly spill the beans to the person you are escaping from and that can endanger you and your children. You must wait until the last minute to tell them your plan. It might seem cruel but it is the only way to be sure of your safety. 

Some of you will be able to afford to replace your belongings after you begin life in your new home and life but many of you won't have that luxury. Here is the plan that I created for myself. I will tell you step by step what I did. I mentioned before on this site that my plan may not work for everyone but it is a good plan and will most likely bring some level of success.

Here we go...take a deep breath, take my virtual hand, pray with me and let take a jump.

Having that trusted person to help is crucial. Don't do anything until you have gotten  a commitment and it might not be a bad idea to have a back up person in case the original has to pull out.

Once you have that relationship established, put  a box or bag in the very back of your closet under some things so it isn't obvious. You don't want your abuser to see what you are doing. Every day or every 3rd day, take 2 or 3 items and put them in the box or bag. It should be items like a roll of toilet paper, a wash cloth, a pr. of socks. Little by little, put things in your escape bag and when it it full, pass it to your trusted person so they can hold it for you. Keep doing that until you have enough items to start a new household with.  Make sure you have a little bit in the way of dishes, cleaning supplies, clothing, non-perishable foods, bottled water and juice drinks. If you are able to, also snag a blanket, pillow and anything else that can help you in the near future, just don't get caught. If you take a small amount of things at a time, nobody should notice. Just keep passing these items to your trusted person.

Some other things to pass to your helper would be any and all documents that prove ownership or even part ownership of anything, Birth Certificates, shot records and any school records. Include marriage and divorce records along with any other documents that can help secure your safety. Be sure to take things to help your children feel more secure like a favorite toy, blanket or other comfort items. While you start working on this section of the site, I will be adding the next section so come back soon for the next step in your life changing adventure. Also, feel free to use the form on this site to ask any questions you might have or to comment. Everything is confidential unless you ask me to share. Hang in there because you can do this. I'm here with you and I pray over this site and all who participate. God bless and I'll see you again here soon.